But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you–Matthew 6:33.
I used to be a self-help junkie. When you walk in any book-store, you will find an isle or two filled with self-help’s luring and enticing titles promising a quick-fix for whatever life problem you are facing.
At that time in my life, I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I turned to self-help or helping myself for a solution. I read every book you can think of. I know every best seller you can name. I spent so much money on those books only to come out not only empty but also broke and nowhere to turn for help. I am grateful I didn’t have money to buy seminars and webinars and conferences to further deepen my pocket because every self-help book you’ll buy will have more promises on your next purchase.
“Four Desires” was one of the titles which caught my attention. Like every other self-help, it promises paradise by the time you finished reading it. I took my hard earned $14.99, whatever and bought it.
I read an intro and the first chapter. Soon I discovered–like every other self-help–the author went to some remote place in Asia, met some guru and got the wisdom he/she revealing in the book. They all go meet someone in the jungle and come out with wisdom to tell us how to be rich and get what we want in life. But this guru lives in places where even the horses cannot go.
When I read a few pages–I realized it was a common theme for every self-help writer. I concluded, there are no Four Desires in life. I didn’t need four desires if anything I desire more than four–money, health, travel the world, a penthouse in New York City, a vacation home in Martha’s Vineyard, skinny body. I desire a private jet, designers shoes and the list keeps growing. If the writer was gonna narrow down to Four then he better make it clear and quick. How could all other desires fit in the four?
That book stayed in my bookshelves for two years without being opened again. I left it there to cool off. I wanted to just walk away and wait until another time, maybe I would be more open finishing it.
Well, within those two years my heart was regenerated. I started looking at things in different perspective. I knew I bought Four Desires book for a purpose even though I didn’t know the real purpose when I bought it. I discovered the purpose of that book was not to find out Four Desires rather One desire. And when I receive that One desire everything else will be added to me.
Beloved, we get distracted by so many things that aren’t that important. We lose focus because the world pulls us everywhere. So many voices, so many choices, so many directions, so many distractions. We know the devil is the author of destructions. He thrives in chaos.
Jesus told Martha, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things; But only one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, and it will not be taken away from her” (Luke 10:41-42). When you chose what truly matters, no one will take that away from you. Take that to the bank. Jesus Himself will not do it.
This scripture changed everything for me. It turned from being just a scripture to a revelation. The day I realized that only One thing needed, I threw every self-help book I had in the garbage. I didn’t even want to sell to someone for a penny.
If you are tired of being tired, you are worn out, you are doing everything you know how to do with no results. You are praying and giving and go to church and serve at church but still spent? I will challenge you to stop everything you have been doing up to this point. Evaluate what you have been doing. Read the Martha and Mary story and ask yourself am I a Martha or a Mary?
I believe you are reading this article because you are leaning towards Martha. You are frustrated and overwhelmed. Let this message be your motivation to get you back on track. Let it remind you what is important.
I walked through that journey before. What I am writing here helped me personally become who I am today. My prayer is it does the same to you. Amen.